These are my original working notes, made quite a few years ago in the days before broadband and easy access to census records etc. I have done a certain amount of extra work in getting them ready to post here, so some of the entries are now up-to-date.
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
Sir Willam GALLWEY of PILMOOR HOUSE
MP for Thirsk
Diary references:
15 Feb 1856: “I wrote a letter to Sir W G telling him Uncle had not arrived at home as he expected him this morng”
no other references 1816-Apr 1858
Post Office 1857:
“Pill Moor House is the residence of Sir William P Gallwey, Bart, MP; it is a new building, pleasantly situated 1 ½ miles from the village. Brickmaking is carried on extensively near here”
William GATENBY of/in BOROUGHBRIDGE
Diary references:
11 Mar 1856: “When I got home [from York] I went to James Swales & Wm Gatenby to ask them to go & speak a good word for Hodgson who was going to be tried with Kirby of Marton for night poaching as I met his mother in the Castle Yard & she asked me if I would but they declined going”
Slaters 1849: “Joiners & Cabinet makers: Gatenby, William, Borobridge”
“Shopkeeper & Baker: Gatenby, John Walker, Borobridge”
Post Office 1857: “Farmers at Helperby/ Brafferton: William Gatenby”
Censuses:
1851: Borobridge
William Gatenby, widower, 45, joiner & cabinet maker master b BB
with 6 children under 16
from Hutton Rudby to Stokesley, Guisborough, Whitby ... and beyond the county ...
Sunday, 24 August 2014
Saturday, 23 August 2014
John Stubbs' diaries (1853-60): people E to F
These are my original working notes, made quite a few years ago in the days before broadband and easy access to census records etc. I have done a certain amount of extra work in getting them ready to post here, so some of the entries are now up-to-date.
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
Mrs ELGOOD of/in BOROUGHBRIDGE
Diary references:
3 Oct 1856: “..to Crawshaws to have tea...Leond [etc] were there Mrs Elgood it was rather sticky”
14 Oct 1856: “..to Miss Stotts...Mrs Elgood & Mrs Crawshaw...&c &c....”
Emma ETESON of/in Knaresborough
Diary references:
9 Jul 1855: “ Emma Eteson &c to tea”
14 Oct 1856: “..to Miss Stotts...Emma Eteson & Jacob...&c &c”
15 Oct 1856: “..to Mrs Powells party Had cards Emma Eteson & I played Joe & Miss Smith”
21 Oct 1856: “..to Humburton..had a large party Emma Eteson was there had a jolly dance”
20 Jan 1857: “Mother was at Mrs Powells at tea. Mrs Eteson of Knaresboro was there”
Mr & Mrs ELLISON of/in OUSEBURN
Diary references:
21 Sep 1857: “..supped...at Uncle Wms Lascelles & wife Miss Hddon Howe & wife Old Pick & wife Richd Paver Ellison & wife were there”
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
Mrs ELGOOD of/in BOROUGHBRIDGE
Diary references:
3 Oct 1856: “..to Crawshaws to have tea...Leond [etc] were there Mrs Elgood it was rather sticky”
14 Oct 1856: “..to Miss Stotts...Mrs Elgood & Mrs Crawshaw...&c &c....”
Emma ETESON of/in Knaresborough
Diary references:
9 Jul 1855: “ Emma Eteson &c to tea”
14 Oct 1856: “..to Miss Stotts...Emma Eteson & Jacob...&c &c”
15 Oct 1856: “..to Mrs Powells party Had cards Emma Eteson & I played Joe & Miss Smith”
21 Oct 1856: “..to Humburton..had a large party Emma Eteson was there had a jolly dance”
20 Jan 1857: “Mother was at Mrs Powells at tea. Mrs Eteson of Knaresboro was there”
Mr & Mrs ELLISON of/in OUSEBURN
Diary references:
21 Sep 1857: “..supped...at Uncle Wms Lascelles & wife Miss Hddon Howe & wife Old Pick & wife Richd Paver Ellison & wife were there”
Friday, 22 August 2014
John Stubbs' diaries (1853-60): names beginning with C
These are my original working notes, made quite a few years ago in the days before broadband and easy access to census records etc. I have done a certain amount of extra work in getting them ready to post here, so some of the entries are now up-to-date.
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
Bessie CARASS of BOROUGHBRIDGE
Bessie may have been John's nurse and features in the life of the family for many decades
Diary references:
16 Jan 1856: “...played cards at Henry Carass’ Joe & I beat the two Henrys had only one rubber Bessie went to ask Miss Eagle a Clairvoyant Lady at Mrs Morrells about Uncle Henlocks...”
27 Jun 1856: “At Noon was at Capes’ with Arthur Powell to dinner I gave Mrs Stevenson a pair of Sissors & Bessie Carass a pair”
15 Sep 1856: “Called to see Bessie Carass & Aunt Bell & then went home”
30 Oct 1857: “At Night sat with Bessie Carass”
no references in 1858 or 1859
while in London, JRS wrote to Bessie (9.2.60)
Censuses:
1851: Boroughbridge
Henry Carass, 32, butcher, b BB
Elizabeth Carass, 34, wife, b Topcliffe
Letters from Ellis Macfarlane to John Stubbs on her first visit to Boroughbridge after their engagement: “I am to see old Bessie tomorrow” she wrote on her first night, and the next day, “Last Night I went to the kitchen to try to get old Bessie tell me something bad about you, but of course failed altogether. This morning I watched her prepare a turkey for cooking. So you see I am beginning already!!”
Bessie offered to come and look after Ellis when the babies were due, made cushions for Ellis and went for holidays to stay with John and Ellis in Coatham.
Bessie also worked for other families. She was left £10 by Mrs Wood in 1872, and a letter of Mary’s in May 1874 shows how busy Bessie and Henry were: “Bessy is very busy. She has loads of washing. We have had Henry one day this week and again tomorrow whitewashing. The Sedgwicks have the Mackaskeys at dinner tomorrow and Bessy is making jelly &c for them”.
Aunt Bell remembered Bessie in her Will “as a small acknowledgment of all her kindness”, and in a letter of 1886 Mary told John she wished on her death that the maids should each have full mourning and that Bessie Carass was to have “a gown and bonnet and cap” in the traditional way.
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
Bessie CARASS of BOROUGHBRIDGE
Bessie may have been John's nurse and features in the life of the family for many decades
Diary references:
16 Jan 1856: “...played cards at Henry Carass’ Joe & I beat the two Henrys had only one rubber Bessie went to ask Miss Eagle a Clairvoyant Lady at Mrs Morrells about Uncle Henlocks...”
27 Jun 1856: “At Noon was at Capes’ with Arthur Powell to dinner I gave Mrs Stevenson a pair of Sissors & Bessie Carass a pair”
15 Sep 1856: “Called to see Bessie Carass & Aunt Bell & then went home”
30 Oct 1857: “At Night sat with Bessie Carass”
no references in 1858 or 1859
while in London, JRS wrote to Bessie (9.2.60)
Censuses:
1851: Boroughbridge
Henry Carass, 32, butcher, b BB
Elizabeth Carass, 34, wife, b Topcliffe
Letters from Ellis Macfarlane to John Stubbs on her first visit to Boroughbridge after their engagement: “I am to see old Bessie tomorrow” she wrote on her first night, and the next day, “Last Night I went to the kitchen to try to get old Bessie tell me something bad about you, but of course failed altogether. This morning I watched her prepare a turkey for cooking. So you see I am beginning already!!”
Bessie offered to come and look after Ellis when the babies were due, made cushions for Ellis and went for holidays to stay with John and Ellis in Coatham.
Bessie also worked for other families. She was left £10 by Mrs Wood in 1872, and a letter of Mary’s in May 1874 shows how busy Bessie and Henry were: “Bessy is very busy. She has loads of washing. We have had Henry one day this week and again tomorrow whitewashing. The Sedgwicks have the Mackaskeys at dinner tomorrow and Bessy is making jelly &c for them”.
Aunt Bell remembered Bessie in her Will “as a small acknowledgment of all her kindness”, and in a letter of 1886 Mary told John she wished on her death that the maids should each have full mourning and that Bessie Carass was to have “a gown and bonnet and cap” in the traditional way.
Thursday, 21 August 2014
John Stubbs' diaries (1853-60): Capes & Clarks
These are my original working notes, made quite a few years ago in the days before broadband and easy access to census records etc. I have done a certain amount of extra work in getting them ready to post here, so some of the entries are now up-to-date.
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
Henry Hawkesley CAPES (1827-1905) of BOROUGHBRIDGE
John's brother in law
Diary references:
first mentioned 20 Jan 1853: “in the evening we had a few friends as M & S Hirst M & J/L Sedgwick & Mr Capes”
15 Sep 1855: “Capes & I walked round by All Arm....”
through 1856: sometimes ‘Capes’, sometimes ‘Mr Capes’, occasionally ‘Mr Henry Capes’. I have come to the conclusion that this is all HHCapes.
4 Feb 1856: “Mr Cape came home from Gainsbro”
9 Feb 1856: “At night went with Mr Capes to Dishforth to hear a little more about Cousin Marks Horse Cause”
14 Feb 1856: “Uncle & Mr C being at Malton Mr Barroby’s horse trial being heard today...”
21 Feb 1856: “Capes & Jane went walking” [first mention of the two together]
27 Mar 1856: “Jane & Capes played Chess”
29 Apr 1856: “At Night Capes Joe & I rowed their boat up to Roecliffe for the first time”
10 Jun 1856: “At Night I had tea with Capes we went down to play Cricket & a jolly practice we had”
17 Jun 1856: “Capes & his cousin Scholfield”
11 Jul 1856: “At Night Jane & Capes came from Taitlands”
27 Aug 1856: “Had a letter from Capes...”
10 Sep 1856: [wedding]
26 Sep 1856: “Capes & Jane came from their Wedding Tour in Wales”
30 Sep 1856: “Capes & Jane came I went with them to their house & filled up some orders of Removal & stayed & supped with them”
14 Oct 1856: “At Night I went to Miss Stotts to meet Mr & Mrs Capes...”
8 Nov 1856: “At Night went to Capes for some Newspapers & took same to Mrs Powells”
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
Henry Hawkesley CAPES (1827-1905) of BOROUGHBRIDGE
John's brother in law
Diary references:
first mentioned 20 Jan 1853: “in the evening we had a few friends as M & S Hirst M & J/L Sedgwick & Mr Capes”
15 Sep 1855: “Capes & I walked round by All Arm....”
through 1856: sometimes ‘Capes’, sometimes ‘Mr Capes’, occasionally ‘Mr Henry Capes’. I have come to the conclusion that this is all HHCapes.
4 Feb 1856: “Mr Cape came home from Gainsbro”
9 Feb 1856: “At night went with Mr Capes to Dishforth to hear a little more about Cousin Marks Horse Cause”
14 Feb 1856: “Uncle & Mr C being at Malton Mr Barroby’s horse trial being heard today...”
21 Feb 1856: “Capes & Jane went walking” [first mention of the two together]
27 Mar 1856: “Jane & Capes played Chess”
29 Apr 1856: “At Night Capes Joe & I rowed their boat up to Roecliffe for the first time”
10 Jun 1856: “At Night I had tea with Capes we went down to play Cricket & a jolly practice we had”
17 Jun 1856: “Capes & his cousin Scholfield”
11 Jul 1856: “At Night Jane & Capes came from Taitlands”
27 Aug 1856: “Had a letter from Capes...”
10 Sep 1856: [wedding]
26 Sep 1856: “Capes & Jane came from their Wedding Tour in Wales”
30 Sep 1856: “Capes & Jane came I went with them to their house & filled up some orders of Removal & stayed & supped with them”
14 Oct 1856: “At Night I went to Miss Stotts to meet Mr & Mrs Capes...”
8 Nov 1856: “At Night went to Capes for some Newspapers & took same to Mrs Powells”
Wednesday, 20 August 2014
John Stubbs' diaries (1853-60): people A to B
These are my original working notes, made quite a few years ago in the days before broadband and easy access to census records etc. I have done a certain amount of extra work in getting them ready to post here, so some of the entries are now up-to-date.
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
John APPLETON of/in Dishforth?
Diary references:
?? Jan 1853 a/c: “for Appleton 6d”
9 Feb 1856: “At Night went with Mr Capes to Dishforth to hear a little more about Cousin Marks Horse Cause Mr Charles Mason & John Appleton were there”
26 Jul 1857: “Mr & Miss Barroby went to Wm Richardsons childs christening I came home at night with John Appleton in the pony carriage They came to meet the Bulls from Salisbury which came tonight”
The Misses D & Sarah APPLETON of Dishforth
Diary references:
17 Jan 1857: “At Night....to Dishforth Ryotts children were all there & a Miss Rhodes from Thirsk & the Misses Appleton of Dishforth we had a dance”
30 Dec 1858: “At Night Went to Capes Miss D Miss Sarah Appleton of Dishforth Miss Clarke of Minskip Miss Calder Jane Sedgwick & Mary Alice & Lizzy Joe & I were there got home about ten”
3 Jan 1859: “...in Stotts phaeton to Clarks of Minskip to tea Miss Calder The Misses Appleton & Miss McCleod were there...”
24 Feb 1859: “we had Miss Appleton & Sarah Appleton & Sophy to tea”
25 Feb 1859: “tea at Uncles The Appletons & Mrs Powell were there”
They are at tea or supper with the Stubbs or Hirsts five times in April, three times in August, and have tea at Bridge Foot once in December
Whites 1840: Dishforth: Thos Appleton, yeoman
Tithe Map c1840
Thomas Appleton has in hand no316, house, and land, and tenants on most of his farmland; his house is on the west side of the main street of Dishforth, south of Mr Barroby’s
William Appleton has tenants on his 59 acres
From Graham Appleton (31 Aug 2014):
Mrs APPLETON of LANGTHORPE
Diary references:
25 Jan 1856: “At Noon went with a note for Mrs Appleton of Langthorp from Uncle Hirst”
Mr ATKINSON decd
Diary references:
30 Aug 1859: “Went to the Fulford Road Cemetery [York] for a cert.e of Mr Atkinsons burial”
They include quotations from George Whitehead's Journals, ed. Helier Hibbs, which have been an invaluable resource for which I am very grateful.
As with the A-Z of Hutton Rudby people, my accuracy is NOT guaranteed! And I'm afraid they are not quite in alphabetical order.
John APPLETON of/in Dishforth?
Diary references:
?? Jan 1853 a/c: “for Appleton 6d”
9 Feb 1856: “At Night went with Mr Capes to Dishforth to hear a little more about Cousin Marks Horse Cause Mr Charles Mason & John Appleton were there”
26 Jul 1857: “Mr & Miss Barroby went to Wm Richardsons childs christening I came home at night with John Appleton in the pony carriage They came to meet the Bulls from Salisbury which came tonight”
The Misses D & Sarah APPLETON of Dishforth
Diary references:
17 Jan 1857: “At Night....to Dishforth Ryotts children were all there & a Miss Rhodes from Thirsk & the Misses Appleton of Dishforth we had a dance”
30 Dec 1858: “At Night Went to Capes Miss D Miss Sarah Appleton of Dishforth Miss Clarke of Minskip Miss Calder Jane Sedgwick & Mary Alice & Lizzy Joe & I were there got home about ten”
3 Jan 1859: “...in Stotts phaeton to Clarks of Minskip to tea Miss Calder The Misses Appleton & Miss McCleod were there...”
24 Feb 1859: “we had Miss Appleton & Sarah Appleton & Sophy to tea”
25 Feb 1859: “tea at Uncles The Appletons & Mrs Powell were there”
They are at tea or supper with the Stubbs or Hirsts five times in April, three times in August, and have tea at Bridge Foot once in December
Whites 1840: Dishforth: Thos Appleton, yeoman
Tithe Map c1840
Thomas Appleton has in hand no316, house, and land, and tenants on most of his farmland; his house is on the west side of the main street of Dishforth, south of Mr Barroby’s
William Appleton has tenants on his 59 acres
From Graham Appleton (31 Aug 2014):
The two sisters, Annie and Sarah, went to a private school in Boroughbridge. Their school mistress was Mary Powell, who is also mentioned in the letters (I found this in the 1851 census). They were the daughters of the Thomas Appleton you found at Dishforth by his second wife. She sadly spent a lot of time in 'asylums' (most time in Bootham Hospital, York). I've looked at her medical records and she seems to have suffered from undiagnosed /untreated post-natal depression- which may have often been the case. Charles Mason and Mark Barroby, who are also in the letters, were the executors of her husband Thomas' will, and then became trustees of her estate while she was in the hospitals.
The John Appleton who is in the letters was from a different branch of the family living in Dishforth. He was a groom- I noticed that the entries with which he's involved are both of a horsey nature! He was the father of the Thomas Appleton who gave his name to the Thomas Appleton's butchers in Ripon market place. Curiously, the young Thomas started his working life as a groom in the household of the above family in Dishforth (the family of Annie, Sarah and their mother-in the 1861 Dishforth census).
Finally, the 'Mrs Appleton of Langthorpe' in the letters is from another branch of the family who were also from Dishforth. All these branches were related and came from Dishforth.
Mrs APPLETON of LANGTHORPE
Diary references:
25 Jan 1856: “At Noon went with a note for Mrs Appleton of Langthorp from Uncle Hirst”
Mr ATKINSON decd
Diary references:
30 Aug 1859: “Went to the Fulford Road Cemetery [York] for a cert.e of Mr Atkinsons burial”
Monday, 18 August 2014
A large family in 19th century Harrogate
I like this story of Jane Stubbs' family because it's a reminder – at
a time when everything to do with bringing up children seems so
particularly fraught with anxiety – that the idea we make for ourselves
of childcare of the past may not be quite accurate … …
Jane Stubbs was born at the Bridge Foot at seven o'clock on the morning of 5 July 1826, and was twelve years older than John. She makes only rare appearances in his early diaries – a teenage boy would hardly notice the activities of a sister who was a young unmarried woman of twenty-seven.
By early 1856, Jane is more frequently noticed in his diary entries and always in connection with a young solicitor in their uncle Hirst's office, Henry Hawkesley Capes. He was a year younger than Jane, and came from Whitgift in Yorkshire, the son of solicitor Thomas Hawkesley Capes and his wife Ann. He and Jane were now to be found walking together and playing chess.
At some point the marriage must have been announced, but John does not record it. We might guess that Jane must have been making preparations for her wedding when she went to stay in York in May and came back with a black undress Coat for her younger brother. With quantities of clothes and underwear to make or buy and the new home to get ready, it is not surprising to find her going to York again in early August, this time with her mother.
York was also the natural place to find a wedding present, and John entrusts this task to his eldest brother Joe who, with the help of his fiancée Sarah Sedgwick of York, buys something suitable:
Jane Stubbs was born at the Bridge Foot at seven o'clock on the morning of 5 July 1826, and was twelve years older than John. She makes only rare appearances in his early diaries – a teenage boy would hardly notice the activities of a sister who was a young unmarried woman of twenty-seven.
By early 1856, Jane is more frequently noticed in his diary entries and always in connection with a young solicitor in their uncle Hirst's office, Henry Hawkesley Capes. He was a year younger than Jane, and came from Whitgift in Yorkshire, the son of solicitor Thomas Hawkesley Capes and his wife Ann. He and Jane were now to be found walking together and playing chess.
At some point the marriage must have been announced, but John does not record it. We might guess that Jane must have been making preparations for her wedding when she went to stay in York in May and came back with a black undress Coat for her younger brother. With quantities of clothes and underwear to make or buy and the new home to get ready, it is not surprising to find her going to York again in early August, this time with her mother.
York was also the natural place to find a wedding present, and John entrusts this task to his eldest brother Joe who, with the help of his fiancée Sarah Sedgwick of York, buys something suitable:
“gave Jane a butter dish and silver knife with pearl handle for a wedding present it cost 11/6”.On Wednesday 10 September 1856 Jane and Capes were married.
Saturday, 16 August 2014
A spinster lady in 19th century Boroughbridge
A glimpse of the life of Alice Stubbs:
Alice Stubbs lived all her life in Boroughbridge. She was born at 6 o'clock in the morning on 2 August 1844 at Bridge Foot, where her father, a grocer and wine merchant, was the third generation to run the family business.
Alice was the youngest of the six children. When she was thirteen years old, she went to school at Miss Adcock's in Ilkley with her elder sister Lizzy and her cousin Mary Redmayne of Stainforth. The following year, in August 1859, she and Mary went to school in Blackheath near London, while Lizzy, aged seventeen, had left education and was making lengthy stays with family and friends.
When Alice's father Thomas died in 1867 Alice was the only child left at home. Her eldest sister Jane and her growing family had moved to Knaresborough, while Lizzy lived in Doncaster with her husband and new baby. John was establishing himself as a solicitor in Middlesbrough, and the family must barely have recovered from the loss of Tom, who had died suddenly in London the previous year when aged only thirty-two. Alice and her mother moved out of the Bridge Foot, leaving it to her eldest brother Joe and his wife, and set up home in St James's Square. She was twenty-three years old and it was to be her home for the rest of her days
We do not know whether Alice chose spinsterhood. There is no hint in the family papers that she suffered any disappointment in love – unlike her cousin Fanny Stubbs, the Bishop of Oxford's sister. Fanny had told John of "her smash with George Robinson" as they walked together to the Castleberg in Settle in August 1856; when she died at the age of forty-one she was still unmarried. Alice, like Fanny, was the mainstay and companion of her widowed mother Mary.
We can glimpse her daily life through family letters.
She had local duties and obligations to fulfil. This included visiting the poor ("districting" as her mother called it), teaching in the Sunday School and helping at the National School. There were calls to be paid and shopping – or, as her mother still said, "marketing" – to be done. Alice played tennis, went for walks, and of course attended church. There were frequent visitors to stay and people called on them and were entertained at meals. Alice and her mother very much enjoyed "romping" with the little children who were brought to the house.
Alice herself went to stay with friends and family, for amusement and to be useful. She went to Redcar, visited Cambridge for the May Bumps “and had great gaiety” when a young relative Charlie Stubbs was rowing in the races, to Hychin Hall near Bury St Edmonds with her cousin Mary Redmayne, to Scarborough with Aunt Henlock. Aunt Henlock was clearly very fond of Alice –
wrote Alice to John in Feb 1869.
Aunt Henlock's generosity, though it made Alice a little embarrassed, was very welcome. Finances were a constraint, as although their lives were comfortable their incomes were fixed. Alice was unable to get to Redcar to see her new nephew soon after the birth because of
wrote Mary in March 1872.
Keeping the balance between the necessity for careful housekeeping and the level of hospitality that she had been accustomed to offer guests – and perhaps felt was expected of her – must have required care.
Alice took her share of the work in the house – and it is clear that they enjoyed their garden:
Mary had run a large household, entertaining customers and family for days in succession during the Fair, and was clearly an excellent manager. The housekeeping skills possessed by Mary and Alice were valued by the rest of the family:
Mary wrote in September 1875.
For all housekeepers in Boroughbridge, the seasonal house-cleaning was a major undertaking. Social life came to a temporary halt while the house was turned out, scrubbed, dusted and whitewashed. Gas had come to the town in about 1860, but even if the house in St James's Square had replaced oil lamps and candles with gas lighting, the light afforded was dim by comparison with the electricity of the 20th century. When spring brought brighter sunshine into the darker corners and shadier passages, the grime of a winter of coal fires and smoky wicks would have been all too visible.
wrote Mary in April 1873.
Another comment by Mary in May 1873 shows how consuming an occupation cleaning was for the whole community:
Unsurprisingly, Mary grew increasingly reluctant to take on the burden without Alice. In 1874, when she and John were attempting to fix a date for Alice to visit him at Coatham, Mary wrote
In spring 1875 Mary was 72 years old – that year she found
The machine was set up on the table that Mary used for writing letters. On 22 February 1872, she wrote to John
and the following month
The sisters-in-law both evidently enjoyed discussing clothes and Ellis must have been a useful source of information for Alice. Boroughbridge had become a much quieter town since the railways came, while Coatham and Redcar were popular seaside resorts, giving Ellis the opportunity to see the lady visitors in their best holiday attire. The sewing machine must have been particularly valuable in the 1870s, when dresses were decorated with a uantity of elaborate trimmings:
Ellis went to visit John’s family for the first time on 28 December 1870. She had met John in late November when they were fellow guests of Thomas Vaughan, the ironmaster. Tom was a friend of John's, and his wife Kate Macfarlane was Ellis's cousin. Ten days after their first meeting, John and Ellis were engaged to be married. Ellis's first visit to Boroughbridge was naturally a matter of great importance, and as he was unable to accompany her, he depended on the post for news.
Her letters give us a glimpse of life in St James's Square. She wrote to him of sitting in her room beside such a cosy fire, watching old Bessie in the kitchen preparing a turkey, coming in
Alice died on 23 July 1921. A loving soul, she was much loved herself. In a letter to his mother on 15 February 1885 John wrote,
In 1909 Alice wrote to Ellis,
Alice Stubbs lived all her life in Boroughbridge. She was born at 6 o'clock in the morning on 2 August 1844 at Bridge Foot, where her father, a grocer and wine merchant, was the third generation to run the family business.
Alice was the youngest of the six children. When she was thirteen years old, she went to school at Miss Adcock's in Ilkley with her elder sister Lizzy and her cousin Mary Redmayne of Stainforth. The following year, in August 1859, she and Mary went to school in Blackheath near London, while Lizzy, aged seventeen, had left education and was making lengthy stays with family and friends.
When Alice's father Thomas died in 1867 Alice was the only child left at home. Her eldest sister Jane and her growing family had moved to Knaresborough, while Lizzy lived in Doncaster with her husband and new baby. John was establishing himself as a solicitor in Middlesbrough, and the family must barely have recovered from the loss of Tom, who had died suddenly in London the previous year when aged only thirty-two. Alice and her mother moved out of the Bridge Foot, leaving it to her eldest brother Joe and his wife, and set up home in St James's Square. She was twenty-three years old and it was to be her home for the rest of her days
We do not know whether Alice chose spinsterhood. There is no hint in the family papers that she suffered any disappointment in love – unlike her cousin Fanny Stubbs, the Bishop of Oxford's sister. Fanny had told John of "her smash with George Robinson" as they walked together to the Castleberg in Settle in August 1856; when she died at the age of forty-one she was still unmarried. Alice, like Fanny, was the mainstay and companion of her widowed mother Mary.
We can glimpse her daily life through family letters.
She had local duties and obligations to fulfil. This included visiting the poor ("districting" as her mother called it), teaching in the Sunday School and helping at the National School. There were calls to be paid and shopping – or, as her mother still said, "marketing" – to be done. Alice played tennis, went for walks, and of course attended church. There were frequent visitors to stay and people called on them and were entertained at meals. Alice and her mother very much enjoyed "romping" with the little children who were brought to the house.
Alice herself went to stay with friends and family, for amusement and to be useful. She went to Redcar, visited Cambridge for the May Bumps “and had great gaiety” when a young relative Charlie Stubbs was rowing in the races, to Hychin Hall near Bury St Edmonds with her cousin Mary Redmayne, to Scarborough with Aunt Henlock. Aunt Henlock was clearly very fond of Alice –
"We had such a pleasant day at Ouseburn yesterday Aunt sent for us in the morng paid the bar [tollbar] and sent us home in the eveng, then I felt overpowered with her presents to me it was so exceedingly kind in fact she did not know how to make sufficient of us"
Aunt Henlock's generosity, though it made Alice a little embarrassed, was very welcome. Finances were a constraint, as although their lives were comfortable their incomes were fixed. Alice was unable to get to Redcar to see her new nephew soon after the birth because of
"lowness in the purses, the sealskin has never been quite recovered Alice felt she had not sufficient dress to come with and nothing quarter day"
she wrote in April 1872."Transferring money does not suit those who have only a limited income payment deferred for a few months is very inconvenient"
Keeping the balance between the necessity for careful housekeeping and the level of hospitality that she had been accustomed to offer guests – and perhaps felt was expected of her – must have required care.
Alice took her share of the work in the house – and it is clear that they enjoyed their garden:
wrote Mary, and"Alice is taking in her geraniums"
"... tell dear Ellis our Hyacinths and Narcissus’s are all nicely in flower and though not remarkably fine are very pretty, are yours flowering?"
"I have got a ham if you like to have it weighing 21 pounds for twenty one shillings, would you like another one or not if so we will look out and they could both come together"
Alice made marmalade for the family, and thereby earned a little more income:"I have only been able yet to get you the small ham but if Ellis still wishes for a large I have no doubt we can get one and then shall be sent off by luggage train when we hear from you."
wrote her mother to John."she has put it into bottles to travel best and altogether has cost 6/-"
For all housekeepers in Boroughbridge, the seasonal house-cleaning was a major undertaking. Social life came to a temporary halt while the house was turned out, scrubbed, dusted and whitewashed. Gas had come to the town in about 1860, but even if the house in St James's Square had replaced oil lamps and candles with gas lighting, the light afforded was dim by comparison with the electricity of the 20th century. When spring brought brighter sunshine into the darker corners and shadier passages, the grime of a winter of coal fires and smoky wicks would have been all too visible.
wrote Mary in March 1872 when it became clear visitors would prevent them, and they were forced to put it off until the beginning of May. It must have been a trying time, and that year they were unfortunate in the weather. They were assisted as usual by Bessy (who had been the children's nurse) while her husband Henry Carass the butcher was their whitewasher. By dint of their combined efforts they were nearly finished by 18 May, but the unseasonable coldness – "it is like Christmas" – made it rather unpleasant. And it was all to be done again in late autumn, ready for winter."We very much wished to be cleaning"
wrote Mary at the end of October, and again on 7 November,"We have had a busy day cleaning the dining room putting down the old carpet etc"
The stone passages were not easy to keep clean and warm:"I do not think we have anything more to tell you everybody is cleaning for Martinmas."
"I am rather anxious to have a new oilcloth for one passage … I cannot have it to cover entirely as no one here could properly fit it so it must only be a certain width … the flags are very rough ones that they may be better not covered altogether, and we always roll it up when we go from home"
Another comment by Mary in May 1873 shows how consuming an occupation cleaning was for the whole community:
"Everybody is cleaning so we are very quiet. Alice will be doing all her drawers &c I cannot persuade her to take them quietly I tell her she will be worn out before her time"
The house was turned upside down in the process. When in May 1874 her daughter Jane Capes wrote in the middle of cleaning"We must have house cleaning and I do not feel equal to undertaking it alone."
"to say she and Henry would come for the night, today was the Audit [probably of the Workhouse Union, which Henry would have to attend] we had not a carpet down up stairs but we took them they slept in the nursery bed (rather small you will say) but they seemed content."
John and his wife Ellis made Alice the fine present of a sewing machine. Isaac Singer improved on earlier machines and patented his own design in 1851, achieving such success that by 1860 Singers were the market leaders. When Ellis prepared her own trousseau in March 1871 she had the use of a sewing machine, remarking to John in a letter from her mother's house in Helensburgh"the extra work of dusting &c has made my sight rather more dim for we have had a very busy week and thankful it is over."
as she sewed her underwear. She must have realised how very useful Alice would find one."10 bodies. No easy task"
The machine was set up on the table that Mary used for writing letters. On 22 February 1872, she wrote to John
"Alice is machining beside me and makes me very shaky but she says to tell them every time I use it I feel more inwardly grateful to them both for it and her best love to Ellis and thanks for her letter."
It enabled Alice to earn a little money by carrying out commissions for the family. She did some sewing for Ellis and the children:"Alice is machining by me petticoat bottoms &c she does prize her valuable gift it has done a great deal this week bed curtains &c &c"
wrote Mary in February 1874."tell Ellis the frock was sent off to her on Monday"
The sisters-in-law both evidently enjoyed discussing clothes and Ellis must have been a useful source of information for Alice. Boroughbridge had become a much quieter town since the railways came, while Coatham and Redcar were popular seaside resorts, giving Ellis the opportunity to see the lady visitors in their best holiday attire. The sewing machine must have been particularly valuable in the 1870s, when dresses were decorated with a uantity of elaborate trimmings:
wrote Alice to Ellis in April 1872."Am I to have Pekay [piqué] dress or what else can you recommend for I have 6 yards of embroidery to trim it with?"
Mary wrote in July 1873."Alice begs I will tell Ellis she wore her blue dress"
Ellis went to visit John’s family for the first time on 28 December 1870. She had met John in late November when they were fellow guests of Thomas Vaughan, the ironmaster. Tom was a friend of John's, and his wife Kate Macfarlane was Ellis's cousin. Ten days after their first meeting, John and Ellis were engaged to be married. Ellis's first visit to Boroughbridge was naturally a matter of great importance, and as he was unable to accompany her, he depended on the post for news.
Her letters give us a glimpse of life in St James's Square. She wrote to him of sitting in her room beside such a cosy fire, watching old Bessie in the kitchen preparing a turkey, coming in
coming home from church and"from such a nice dinner – and as Alice insisted in me taking some port you must excuse bad writing!?!"
A few months later, when he was staying at Boroughbridge, she wrote,"taking a nice warm cup of coffee to lunch."
"I imagine when you receive this you will be just dressing in the nice comfortable room I slept in perhaps just out of your bath as I was when I received yours."
"Don’t please trouble about Alice. So long as I am able, she shall never want a home, but she will have enough to make her independent of any of us"
"words will never express what you have been to me throughout the whole of your married life and it was one of dear Granny’s great causes of thankfulness that John had chosen such a wife. Also that I had gained such a true and loving sister."
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