In 1851, some months after her marriage, Marian Digby Beste and her new family left the country. They sailed for the United States in a large party consisting of eleven children (Beste's eldest son remained behind), several canary birds, a lapdog and a dormouse. They hoped to find a better future for the boys in the new world.
Back in Yorkshire, some of Mr Barlow's activities at this time can be traced in his notebooks, and particularly in the one that survived amongst the logbooks for the Hutton Rudby school. In it he recorded
the beginning of what was to be a long-running boundary dispute with his neighbour, the tailor William Jackson, who lived in the cottage where Drumrauch Hall now stands:
The time when the hedge at the foot of Jackson paddock Jacque Barn was cut by my order and in my presence
after harvest 1850 by Ramshaw
after harvest 1851 by Thos Brown
Some jottings show his open-handedness in giving and lending money to his parishioners, as for example:
Teddy has paid towards his boots 0 – 6 – 7 Decr 27th 1851
Other entries include notes of the number of days worked for him by the Meynells, Hebron, "Joe" and Pat Cannon and details of the substantial sum of £309-19s he had made in 1854 on sales of crops grown on his glebe land.
The 1851 census found Robert Barlow and all his family together in the vicarage: his wife, his three sisters and his nephew Hector.
They had a very suitable complement of servants – cook, housemaid and groom – indicating a well-to-do middle-class household. The cook and maid were two Hutton Rudby girls aged 20 and 17, Catherine and Elizabeth Bainbridge, and the groom was an Irish lad, John McLaughlin, aged 18.
Hector Vaughan was then 18 years old and must soon afterwards have begun his career in the army, entering the 1st Battalion 20th Foot (East Devonshire) Regiment
[1]. At this time an army officer was generally expected to have a private income in addition to his pay. Hector may have inherited money from his father's family, or possibly his mother passed on to him some of the income from his father's Will and her own marriage settlement.
For this census Mr Barlow gave his age as 47 and reduced his wife's age from nearly 70 to 45. His two eldest sisters are described as aged 30 and 28 years old, while their younger sister Nanny has a mere fourteen years taken off her age, which is given as 36.